Wednesday, 27 February 2008

A Reunion with Your Ex Looks Less Likely by the Minute

After I split with my girlfriend a few years back, I thought I'd be a bit savvy and turn to the internet to see what could be done to get her back. I eventually found a bunch of e-books on the topic, one of which made the heady promise that "I would never have to lift a finger" and she'd come running back to me. This e-book sounded the most appealing (and easiest to implement!) from the sales page, so I went ahead and snapped it up.

I basically paid for someone to tell me that I should implement a "No contact" policy with my ex and she would magically come running back to me. It seemed PERFECT on paper. She would eventually begin to miss me, and she'd become desperate for my affection once more. She'd also see that I wasn't needy and I'd have the upper hand. Days passed. Weeks passed. One day, curiosity simply got the better of me - I went on her Facebook page (which I had been told not t do because it broke the no contact policy). Low and behold, she was with some jerk, and if the flirty comments were to be believed, they were already sleeping together and she had never been happier. The cheek!

Let me tell you, I felt low. Getting an ex back CAN be done, but it's tricky as hell and requires a little bit more than just sitting back and hoping she'll realise she's made a mistake in leaving you. I now know that this was a stupid strategy, and it is - but alot of "experts" out there preach this method and I got sucked into their faulty logic and bought into it. Let me tell you now, it's junk. A successful strategy to getting your girl back is based on making the right moves while avoiding the wrong ones. Avoiding her ENTIRELY is a WRONG move.

I did eventually decide to follow a different course of action to try and win her back, but it was simply too late. She'd hooked up with this guy and they got on great. Wasting valuable time with a "no contact" policy was my undoing.

After I thought about it for a while, I came to realise that the "no contact" technique was truely a terrible one: I completely dissapeared from her life for over a month. While this might have hurt her temporarily in the immediacy of the breakup, after a while, with every day that passed, she became used to living life without me. It's very easy to forget someone you don't even know exists anymore! The old saying "time heals all wounds" holds alot of water. Avoiding her completely was a bad move - it gave her complete space and time to heal, and heal she did. And by leaving her life, for just one month, I left the door wide open for someone else to walk into her life.

Don't make the mistake of buying into a plan that tells you to "avoid" her for a while. It's a cheap and nasty trick that simply doesn't work. This happened to me back in 2005, and I hope you don't fall into the trap of using this method to try and win her back. For a plan that WORKS, I recommend - the Internet's premier guide to getting back an ex.

Article posted 19th of November 2009. May not be copied without permission.

1 comment:

hannah said...

Thanks a lot for your advice guys, it helped me a lot, I went to and followed their step by step instructions and it worked perfectly, now me and my girlfriend are back together.